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Back in August, I essentially dived into a pool and began swimming. I saw so many new sights, smelled the scents of delicious food cooking or over-cologned passersby, and made my way through Spain. I was so taken by the new and different beauty of the country, and especially the customs. One of the first things I noticed was how social everyone seemed to be and how the plaza café was a cornerstone of the lifestyle here in Spain.
Noticing all of this is something that so often happens when you go to a new place. You tend to pick out the small things that normally go unnoticed, also noticing the big ones too. I suppose that’s the beauty of traveling to a different country on vacation, because you immerse yourself in something quite different from home. The same thing happens when you study abroad, but with the added time, those small things that you noticed at first slowly recede and, after a while, become unnoticed just the same. It’s not a bad thing, it just shows that you have become a part of the lifestyle and that place became a home.
A home this is. Granada is a big part of my life now. So many experiences and memories were forged on the streets of this mid-sized city in the mountains, and so many friendships were made. I am preparing to leave Granada for what will likely be the last time. I would love to return at some point, but that time probably will not happen for many years to come. What’s important, though, is that I have grown. Obviously not physically, but intellectually. My entire life I have enjoyed traveling to new places, crafting new experiences and relationships and Granada stands as the best of those experiences.
In many ways, I would say that studying abroad is like the first semester of college. You arrive and are out of your element, in a new environment and with new responsibilities. There may be friends from high school, so you flock together and share the majority of your experiences together while navigating the complexities of this new place. With time you make new amazing friends, figure out the drinking culture and reach some sense of moderation that will influence your lifestyle and decisions while having a blast and the time of your life. Shortly thereafter, you realize that this new place has become routine. You know all the nooks and crannies, you have a super secret territory in the library for studying and have a regular group of friends. Then the time comes to leave and while you’re sad, you look back with fondness at all that you have accomplished, you smile at the funny moments and joke about the embarrassing ones. As pictures are viewed, you chuckle at who you were all that time ago, and you map out in your mind how you have grown personally. Then you leave, maintaining ties and connections while going about whatever trail in life is meant for you, while always reflecting back to a time and a place that was special and that will never be replicated again.
This is how I feel as the hours wind down and I prepare to go to bed one last time in my apartment. Spain was a new experience for me, and one that I relish with the hungry zest of someone in a hot dog eating competition. Like them, I soaked everything up and consumed all that I could of my time here in Granada and abroad. Unlike the hot dog competitor, I could actually taste what I was experiencing, and could thus appreciate it all the more. My time here was not a competition by any means, but it was an experience that many people witnessed and can share.
So many of us students came together for these past few months and I made tons of new friends, many of whom I may never see again, but the memories will live on. At some point, my trail may converge with that of any of my new friends, and I’m sure we will get together and remember all of the experiences we shared in Spain, for the memories will come surging back. They always do.
What makes these memories and these moments of reminiscence so special, is they can never be replicated. I could very well study abroad again and go to a new country, learn the language, and submit myself to a new set of experiences, but it would not be the same. The people, the places, the experiences and the culture make an experience what it is meant to be and that is what forges the memories, making them so unique.
Despite the differences in experiences, all good things must come to an end. Time never stops chugging on, and life will pick up tomorrow with the regularity of the rising sun. It may be a new day with new possibilities, but the memories of yesterday will still be there, lingering.
Memories are what make up life. We live our lives as best we can, while looking back on the formative experiences that guided us along our treks and remember as our hearts glow with happiness or sadness, laughter or anger. My time here in Granada was each of these, and for that I am thankful. I will miss the amazing friends that I have made here, and the fond times that I have had, but there will not be a single moment that I will regret or frown upon.
Many years from now, I very well may have a family of my own. At some point, I’m sure one of my kids will ask me if I ever studied abroad and I can tell you right now, that I will chuckle, smile, remember those still lingering memories, and smile some more with the most profound sense of elation in my heart.
Eventually I cut through the plaza that smells like bird droppings, making my way around the fountain and glancing up at the tall trees that were just now losing their leaves, noticing a bird or two here and there. Before I could look forward again, I stepped onto that old cobble-stoned road that was set back in the 17th century, that looked like something right out of Boston, and then made my way onto the Arabic cobble-stoned road that was laid out in the 14th century, (Instead of bricks, they would place down small stones about the size of a plastic silly putty case and fill the extra space with a mortar-type mixture) that softly massaged my feet as I pattered along. 


stressing about finals (with my friends, some of whom are pictured at right), pushing myself to the very edge of my motivation to get things done. When all has been finished, there’s nothing better than coming home and being able to celebrate Thanksgiving within a day or two, to be greeted with all of those fantastic hugs, smiles and my Dad’s ridiculous and eye-roll (with a simultaneous chuckle) provoking sense of humor. Not to mention the food, of course.
While I no doubt miss being home for the holidays, I’m curious to see what it’s like to be in Spain for them. After one of my classes today, my favorite professor stopped me on my way out and said (in Spanish, of course): “Happy Turkey Day tomorrow, Jared! I hope you’ll be able to chat with your family for a bit even though we have classes all day.” It was a nice comment that caught me off-guard, but I was glad that she could appreciate the meaning of the day. She then asked what I would miss most and I said “Well a lot of things. But my Grandma Gallagher (pictured in front and center in the picture above) makes some AMAZING pies. My Grandma Marchant (pictured below in the lower right) makes some pretty fantastic dishes as well” (Notice how I didn’t list anything specific because all of the food they prepare, and that of my entire family, is truly excellent). My professor smiled and said that she wishes her Grandmothers and families could cook as well as it seems mine can. :)
students (many of whom are American), it’s no secret that Thanksgiving is a big deal. Given this, many people tend to go out of their way to wish us a happy holiday, and my program has planned a nice dinner for all of us to attend. Nonetheless, no matter how intrigued or excited I may be to experience the holiday season in Spain, there is still that pang that wishes I could join in some of the holiday festivities with those that I care about.
I think it’s no surprise that the biggest thing I’m (and many of my fellow study abroaders are) thankful for this year is support. I would not be able to come to Spain without the willingness, trust, love and support that my parents provide. What’s more, I’m thankful for my amazing sisters who continuously impress me with all that they do and who are the ones that helped ignite that flame to travel and explore new places. I’m thankful for my exemplary extended family and all of my truly fantastic friends. All of whom have been so
supportive by sending random emails to say “hello”, by reading my blog and responding, by commenting on pictures, or chatting with me via facebook from time to time. Lastly, I’m thankful for my boss at Lawrence Today, Sheree Rogers, for letting me do this blog, giving me advice, and supporting me along the way. The same goes to Laura Zuege for promoting the blog as a way to generate excitement for studying abroad and also giving me great feedback. Two amazing women that support me so much in such a unique way, for which I’m very thankful!

and cute little stores with a lot of local artistry and food. If any of you have had the privilege of visiting Door County, think of that except without a lake and instead located in the mountains. So beautiful!
Back at Lawrence, I always have views of a river when I study or eat and I pass through gorgeous green space when going to/from class (except it’s super white and sometimes gray in the winter, obviously). My university lifestyle at home is absorbed with the outdoors, whereas here I walk amidst buildings on a daily basis, with hardly a glimpse of expansive green space. I can deal with that, as it’s not unpleasant or bothersome to me. However, this trip certainly led me to realize the importance of the outdoors and how it’s nice to get away every once in a while; to go to a place that has no cars, loud noises or pollution is, in a way, a sort of refuge that rejuvenates. 
walking with three other buddies of mine through the sand dunes. We had an afternoon free to explore the desert on our own, so we grabbed our empty water bottles and walked for about two miles to a giant sand ‘mountain’ and climbed to the top. It was maybe 700 feet high and the view was absolutely breathtaking. We filled our water bottles up with sand from the top of that mountain, and just sat there, taking in the sights and having great conversations
as the sun slowly began to set. Interestingly enough, the day we climbed that sand dune was Halloween Day. What an awesome way to spend the holiday, eh?
hoping to visit more than one country in Africa, since there is such an overlap with Europe and many languages are spoken in Morocco. When I was sitting on one of our three coach buses, passing through these cities, I couldn’t help but look around the bus at my friends and watch them look out the window at such a different way of life. What were they thinking? Feeling? What will they do with this experience when they go home?
accessories or the newest style of anything. This isn’t to say that Americans are desperate for lavish things, which may or may not be true, but rather that there is a stark contrast between America and Morocco in terms of evidence of wealth, expense and the way we live our lives. Bearing this in mind, will we (as tourists) become more aware and careful of our decisions or purchases from now on? Or will we simply make a mental note of the contrast in living, remember to tell people about it, and then go home and continue to live life as we have before? 